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Book Reviewing Isn’t Simple – The Dark Truth of Author Bullying January 29, 2017

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If you’re putting yourself out there as a professional writer, you need to develop some professionalism. Creative works are personal, but you have to get a little distance if you’re going to grow as an artist, and that means taking criticism like a grown-up, and recognizing that it might be valid, even when it’s painful. Or, at the very least, reacting with a little poise and grace instead of throwing a tantrum like some kind of toddler.

I hate that this book reviewer received such vitriol and abuse when she was trying to help. Heck, even if she’d been rude and obnoxious, she didn’t deserve to be attacked in return (she wasn’t, BTW).

Come on people, what are we? Twelve? Find some big-girl panties and put them on. Nobody wants to change your diapers.

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*Ok, I’m honestly a little scared of posting this as I don’t want any more harassment from the wrong people…

The above picture pretty much sums up how I feel today.  I’m exhausted and drained from all the horrible things that have happened recently.  I’ve faced cold distant treatment, attacks on facebook and now I’ve been bullied privately, all because I wanted to be honest and help out an author.

Back in October I wrote this post A Tough Decision – Don’t blame the Book Blogger Blame Your Fellow Indies 😦 after facing a load of abuse from some indie authors.  In the post I talked about my tough decision to stop reviewing indie books, but several weeks later, after having only good communications, I took back my ‘no-indie’ policy and started receiving indie requests again.  BEFORE I go on I must point out that this post isn’t talking about all the…

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How I Beat My Struggle with Settings January 22, 2017

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A good image can be inspiring in a lot of different ways. Art speaks to art.

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I keep two files of art. Well, I keep more than two, but two specifically related to my novels: Characters and Settings. (Each project also has it’s own specific folder of inspiration.) My Settings file is particularly useful, because I struggle.

I could write dialogue all day. In fact, that’s almost always how I start — with two people talking. Sometimes where they are while they talk is necessitated by the story, but often the exact location is not; it just has to be somewhere that makes sense. And when it comes time to think of someplace interesting to put them, and to describe it, I get frustrated.

Enter my Settings file. It doesn’t always help, but often it does, although often only indirectly. For example, today I was perusing images and I came across the picture with all the cages below, and my mind immediately went to “pet store,” even…

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Fund-Raising Success! January 20, 2017

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Thank you to all the Friends and other supporters who donated to our GoFundMe campaign to help the Orange County Public Library after it was recently flooded. We raised $1,500 in total–which …

Source: Fund-Raising Success!

 

 

So proud of my community for this effort. I hope we see continued interest in the work of the Friends.

 

Inspirations… (Jan. 19, 2017)

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What a great reading list . . .that I’ve only read about half of. More for the TBR.

Shannon Turlington

womens-march-sperry-wow-webThe Women’s March on Washington is what is inspiring me right now. It started out as just an idea following on the surprising election results and has now grown, grassroots-style, into the largest protest and demonstration to take place in response to the inauguration. The march is for everyone, regardless of gender identity, who believes that women’s rights are human rights. The primary march will be held in Washington, DC, but there will be supporting marches in cities, large and small, around the world. Where I live, there are at least three supporting events within easy driving distance.

I was impressed with the Women’s March Global Mission for Equality, and I hope this signals the beginning of a powerful and effective worldwide movement. I only wish that education of girls and women was a plank in the mission statement, because I personally believe that education is the key to…

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Why I Don’t Think 2016 Was “The Worst Year” January 12, 2017

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“Worst” is always a very personal view. Getting a little perspective can definitely help. Despair won’t. We all have to decide how best to move forward.

@mirymom1 from
Balancing Act

Erin Bartels

Social media posts over the past 3-6 months would have us believe that 2016 was the “worst year,” if not ever then at least in living memory. A number of prominent celebrities died, some of them young, some of them tragically young. A fairly despicable human being was elected president of the United States and no one knows quite what to expect from him. Problems that I guess some people had thought were largely solved (though I can’t imagine why beyond wishful thinking) reared their ugly heads. Violence against people because of race, sexuality, and religion was too regular for our tastes.

Yes, some terrible things happened, and their impact was amplified by the frequency with which we saw them on social media and the 24 hour news cycle. Our parents’ or grandparents’ generation only had to confront such realities of life on planet earth once or twice a day…

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